Why Sleep-Deprived People Push Everyone Away (And It’s Contagious)

Almost half of all Americans report feeling lonely or left out.

Almost half of all Americans report feeling lonely or left out.

Sleep deprivation makes people feel more lonely.

Not only that, but lack of sleep makes people less likely to engage with others, so compounding the problem of loneliness.

The reason is that people feel socially unattractive when they don’t get enough sleep.

And others spot this: loneliness is spread, almost virally, from sleepy people to the well-rested after only a short encounter.

The study’s findings show that lack of sleep and loneliness interact with each other to make the problem worse.

Professor Matthew Walker, study co-author, said:

“We humans are a social species.

Yet sleep deprivation can turn us into social lepers.”

Sleep’s social cost

For one study, the researchers scanned people’s brains while they watched videos of strangers walking towards them.

Brain activity in the sleep deprived showed they would rather avoid social contact.

Professor Walker said:

“The less sleep you get, the less you want to socially interact.

In turn, other people perceive you as more socially repulsive, further increasing the grave social-isolation impact of sleep loss.

That vicious cycle may be a significant contributing factor to the public health crisis that is loneliness.”

Dr Eti Ben Simon, the study’s first author, said:

“It’s perhaps no coincidence that the past few decades have seen a marked increase in loneliness and an equally dramatic decrease in sleep duration.

Without sufficient sleep we become a social turn-off, and loneliness soon kicks in.”

Professor Walker thinks the lack of a safety net is why sleep deprivation can be so harmful:

“There’s no biological or social safety net for sleep deprivation as there is for, say, starvation.

That’s why our physical and mental health implode so quickly even after the loss of just one or two hours of sleep.

On a positive note, just one night of good sleep makes you feel more outgoing and socially confident, and furthermore, will attract others to you.”

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The study was published in the journal Nature Communications (Simon & Walker, 2018).

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The Personality Trait That’s An Obvious Cause Of Loneliness

How to break out of the vicious circle of loneliness. 

How to break out of the vicious circle of loneliness.

Being self-centred is a key trait in causing loneliness.

Loneliness makes people more self-centred, which then makes them more lonely.

This vicious circle is hard to break out of, although part of the key is to target self-centredness.

Too much focus on the self can help protect people in the short-term, but in the long-term it perpetuates loneliness.

Loneliness is an emotion designed to tell us that we do not have enough pleasurable and rewarding social relationships in our lives.

Between 30-40 percent of people around the world report being constantly lonely.

Professor John Cacioppo, the study’s first author, said:

“If you get more self-centered, you run the risk of staying locked in to feeling socially isolated.

[…] targeting self-centeredness as part of an intervention to lessen loneliness may help break a positive feedback loop that maintains or worsens loneliness over time.”

The conclusions come from 229 people followed over 11 years as part of the Chicago Health, Aging and Social Relations Study.

Becoming too self-centred emerged as a critical component of loneliness.

Professor Cacioppo explained that humans evolved in groups, so other people are crucial to our happiness:

“Humans evolved to become such a powerful species in large part due to mutual aid and protection and the changes in the brain that proved adaptive in social interactions.

When we don’t have mutual aid and protection, we are more likely to become focused on our own interests and welfare.

That is, we become more self-centered.

This evolutionarily adaptive response may have helped people survive in ancient times, but in contemporary society may well make it harder for people to get out of feelings of loneliness.”

The study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (Cacioppo et al., 2017).

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