Study Tests If More Relationship Sex Really Boosts Happiness

Many self-help books claim that more sex in a relationship makes couples happier, but is it really true?

Many self-help books claim that more sex in a relationship makes couples happier, but is it really true?

Contrary to the claims of many self-help books, couples that have more sex are NOT happier, a new experiment finds.

When couples had more sex, researchers found, they reported wanting and enjoying it less — indeed their happiness was slightly reduced.

The conclusions come from a study of 64 heterosexual, married couples between the ages of 35 and 65.

The study asked some couples to double the amount of sex they had, while the rest were given no instruction.

The results showed that couples that had more sex were slightly less happy.

They also enjoyed the sex less and wanted it less.

Dr Tamar Krishnamurti, one of the study’s authors, said:

“The desire to have sex decreases much more quickly than the enjoyment of sex once it’s been initiated.

Instead of focusing on increasing sexual frequency to the levels they experienced at the beginning of a relationship, couples may want to work on creating an environment that sparks their desire and makes the sex that they do have even more fun.”

The researchers were open to alternative interpretations of their study, as good scientists should be.

Professor George Loewenstein, who led the study, said:

“Perhaps couples changed the story they told themselves about why they were having sex, from an activity voluntarily engaged in to one that was part of a research study.

If we ran the study again, and could afford to do it, we would try to encourage subjects into initiating more sex in ways that put them in a sexy frame of mind, perhaps with baby-sitting, hotel rooms or Egyptian sheets, rather than directing them to do so.”

Despite the study’s results, Professor Loewenstein thinks many couples can benefit from having more sex — as long as sex is initiated in the right way.

Nevertheless, the results fly in the face of a common finding that those who have more sex are happier.

However, the results of other studies may be caused by people who are happier tending to have more sex, rather than that more sex causes more happiness.

The study was published in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization (Loewenstein et al., 2015).

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Top 3 Needs For Happy Life — Fascinating Changes Since 1938

How beliefs about what makes us happy have changed in the last 80 years.

How beliefs about what makes us happy have changed in the last 80 years.

Eighty years ago the top three things people thought were most important for happiness were security, knowledge and religion.

By 2014 only security was still in the top three, and the other two spots had changed to good humour and leisure.

Meanwhile religion had dropped to tenth, and last place.

The results come from two surveys carried out almost 80 years apart.

For both surveys people in Bolton, England replied to an advert asking them to answer the question “What is happiness?”

Here are some of the responses form both 1938 and 2014:

“Enough money to meet everyday needs and a little for pleasure.” (1938)

“Knowing that my rent is paid on time and I can afford to eat healthily.” (2014)

“I would like a little home, not many possessions … congenial and satisfying companionship, the availability of good music and books.” (1938)

“Engaging in my hobbies, spending time that is free of worry … Simple things like enjoying a nice meal or receiving care and affection.” (2014)

“When I come home from the pit and see my kiddies and wife, I am happy.” (1938)

“Simple things like going out for a walk…….you don’t need tons of material things to be happy, you just have to be happy in the place you live and with the people around you.” (2014)

Despite the changes in the top three, Sandie McHugh, one of the study’s authors, pointed out that there were a lot of similarities:

“The overall impression from the correspondence in 1938 is that happiness factors were rooted in everyday lives at home and within the community.

In 2014 many comments value family and friends, with good humour and leisure time also ranked highly.”

The results were presented at the Annual Conference of the British Psychological Society in Liverpool.

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Introverts Prefer Mountains: How Your Personality Affects Where You Should Live

Whether it’s better to live in the mountains, on the plains, by the ocean — and the city that’s best for you.

Whether it’s better to live in the mountains, on the plains, by the ocean — and the city that’s best for you.

‘Introverts prefer mountains’ is one of the conclusions of a series of recent studies on the link between personality and place.

People view mountainous areas as being more peaceful and calm.

Extroverts, meanwhile, tend to prefer flat, open areas.

These are viewed as more exciting, sociable and stimulating.

The study also found that introverts are, indeed, more likely to live in mountainous areas, while extraverts tend to live on the flat.

Dr Shige Oishi, who led the study, said:

“Some cities and towns have geography that is more accommodating for some people than for others…if you know you’re introverted, then you may be rejuvenated by being in a secluded place, while an extrovert may be rejuvenated more in an open space.”

People’s preferences also changed depending on how they were feeling.

When they wanted to socialise, people thought of the ocean 75% of the time.

Personality match

Another study on personality has found that people may be better off in cities which match their personalities.

Dr Wiebke Bleidorn, who led this study, said:

“Individuals low on openness to experiences had significantly lower self-esteem in open cities, like New York City, but relatively higher self-esteem in cities that score relatively lower on openness to experience, for instance, Tuscaloosa, Alabama.”

In other words, people may have higher self-esteem when their personality matches the city.

If you’re open-minded, you’re better off to live in an open-minded type of place.

Happy places

Some areas even seem to give off a special lustre of happiness which people are attracted to.

In a further study of life satisfaction and population growth, Richard E. Lucas found that happy places grow more quickly (Lucas, 2013).

He explained:

“This suggests that there is something about happier places that people recognize and that attracts people to live there.

It’s not clear from our research why this association exists.

It could be that people intentionally move to places that are happier, and the factors that attract people also contribute to happiness, or it may be that places that are growing feel more energetic.”

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The 5 Happiest Countries And What Makes Them So Happy

Only one country in North America is amongst the world’s happiest.

Only one country in North America is amongst the world’s happiest.

Switzerland is the world’s happiest country, according to the 2015 World Happiness Report.

The next four spots are taken by Iceland, Denmark, Norway and Canada.

The United States came in 15th spot, while the UK is at 21 and Australia at 10.

Unsurprisingly, four of the five least happy countries in the world are in sub-Saharan Africa: Rwanda, Benin, Burundi and Togo.

The three countries that have seen the biggest gains in happiness are Nicaragua, Zimbabwe and Ecuador.

The biggest drop in happiness is in Greece, where the economy has collapsed.

Jeffrey Sachs, Director of the Earth Institute, Columbia University, said:

“The aspiration of society is the flourishing of its members.

This report gives evidence on how to achieve societal well-being.

It’s not by money alone, but also by fairness, honesty, trust, and good health.

The evidence here will be useful to all countries as they pursue the new Sustainable Development Goals.”

The Gallup organisation surveyed people across 158 countries about their happiness.

They found that most of the differences in happiness could be explained by six factors:

  • Real GDP per capita,
  • healthy life expectancy,
  • having someone to count on,
  • perceived freedom to make life choices,
  • freedom from corruption,
  • and generosity.

Professor Richard Layard, Director of the Well-Being Programme at LSE’s Centre for Economic Performance, and one of the study’s editors, said:

“A positive outlook during the early stages of life is inherently desirable, but it also lays the foundation for greater happiness during adulthood.

As we consider the value of happiness in today’s report, we must invest early on in the lives of our children so that they grow to become independent, productive and happy adults, contributing both socially and economically.”

The study also found that long-established social norms were important to national happiness.

People were happier when they could rely on family, friends and social institutions.

Professor John F. Helliwell, of the University of British Columbia and the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research, and another of the report’s editors, said:

“As the science of happiness advances, we are getting to the heart of what factors define quality of life for citizens.

We are encouraged that more and more governments around the world are listening and responding with policies that put well-being first.

Countries with strong social and institutional capital not only support greater well-being, but are more resilient to social and economic crises.”

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The Weirdest Way People Communicate Their Happiness

One more reason why happiness is so infectious.

One more reason why happiness is so infectious.

People communicate their happiness to others through their perspiration, a new study finds.

There are chemical compounds in sweat, it turns out, that can be detected by others.

Previous studies have shown that we can smell fear and disgust in sweat — but happiness has been more of a gray area.

Professor Gün Semin, a psychologist at Utrecht University in the Netherlands, who led the study, said:

“Our study shows that being exposed to sweat produced under happiness induces a simulacrum of happiness in receivers, and induces a contagion of the emotional state.

This suggests that somebody who is happy will infuse others in their vicinity with happiness.

In a way, happiness sweat is somewhat like smiling — it is infectious.”

For the study people watched videos that were designed to elicit emotional reactions.

At the same time they had sweat pads taped under their armpits.

Women — whose sense of smell is generally stronger than men — were then asked to smell the sweat samples.

When asked consciously, the women could not tell the different between ‘happy sweat’, ‘fearful sweat’ and ‘neutral sweat’.

But here’s the clever bit.

The researchers also recorded their faces to monitor their unconscious reactions to the sweat samples.

What they saw was that when women smelled the ‘happy sweat’, the muscles in their face moved to indicate a smile.

The researchers controlled for all sorts of other possible explanations, such as the intensity of the smell.

Professor Semin said:

“This is another step in our general model on the communicative function of human sweat, and we are continuing to refine it to understand the neurological effects that human sweat has on recipients of these chemical compounds.”

Imagine what will happen once perfume manufacturers get onto the fact that happiness can be communicated by smell…

The study was published in the journal Psychological Science (de Groot et al., 2015).

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The Bizarre Reason Conservatives Are NOT Happier Than Liberals

CConservatives may say they are happier than liberals but that’s not the whole truth.

Conservatives may say they are happier than liberals but that’s not the whole truth.

While conservative say they are happier, it’s liberals who act and look happier, according to a new study.

The research questions the modern myth that conservatives are happier than liberals.

The key difference in this study is in how happiness was measured.

Professor Peter Ditto, one of the study’s authors, explained:

“If you want to know how happy someone is, one way to do it is to just ask them, and this logic has been relied upon heavily in research on subjective well-being.

But another way to think about it is that happy is as happy does, and looking at happiness-related behavior avoids the issue of someone striving to present him- or herself as a happy person.”

Liberals look and sound happier

The researchers analysed huge amounts of data from all sorts of sources.

They included millions of words from Congressional records of known conservatives and liberals.

They also included posts to Twitter and LinkedIn which were categorised as liberal or conservative by links to organisations with clear viewpoints.

For example, users who like Fox News are likely to be conservative, while users who like Planned Parenthood are likely to be liberal.

They found that liberals were more likely to use positive language while writing and talking.

Liberals were also were more likely to be smiling in photographs.

Sean Wojcik, the study’s first author, said:

“We were surprised by how consistently happiness-related behavior was predicted by having a liberal political ideology.

We saw similar patterns of emotional language and smiling behavior among Congress members, Twitter users and LinkedIn users.”

So, why is it that when asked in surveys, conservatives claim to be happier than liberals?

Mr Wojcik explained:

“People tend to report all kinds of traits and abilities in an overly favorable way.

If you ask people to rate themselves across almost any set of positive traits — intelligence, social skills, even driving ability — most will rate themselves above average.

We observed that effect to be stronger among conservatives than liberals.”

The news isn’t all bad for conservatives, though, Mr Wojcik said:

“There’s research saying that self-enhancement is related to improved social relations, productive and creative work, and other beneficial outcomes.”

The study is published in the journal Science (Wojcik et al., 2015).

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This Rewarding Way of Seeing Your Life Can Protect Heart Health

This perspective has been linked to a wide range of psychological and physical benefits.

This perspective has been linked to a wide range of psychological and physical benefits.

A strong sense of purpose in life may lower heart disease risk, a new study finds.

The research found that a high sense of purpose reduced the risk of heart disease by 19%.

The risk of death by any cause was reduced by 23% in those who had a high sense of purpose.

The study’s lead author, Dr Randy Cohen, said:

“Developing and refining your sense of purpose could protect your heart health and potentially save your life.

Our study shows there is a strong relationship between having a sense of purpose in life and protection from dying or having a cardiovascular event.

As part of our overall health, each of us needs to ask ourselves the critical question of ‘do I have a sense of purpose in my life?’

If not, you need to work toward the important goal of obtaining one for your overall well-being.”

This is not the first study to link a sense of purpose with both physical and psychological benefits:

  • A 2009 study of 1,238 elderly people found that those with a sense of purpose lived longer.
  • A 2010 study of 900 older adults found that those with a greater sense of purpose were much less likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Survey data often links a sense of purpose in life with increased happiness.

Sense of purpose

The conclusion comes from a review of 10 different studies.

Together they include data from over 137,000 people.

Unsurprisingly, the researchers also found that people with a lower sense of purpose in life have an increased risk of developing heart disease.

Dr Alan Rozanski, the study’s co-author, said:

“Prior studies have linked a variety of psychosocial risk factors to heart disease, including negative factors such as anxiety and depression and positive factors such as optimism and social support.

Based on our findings, future research should now further assess the importance of life purpose as a determinant of health and well-being and assess the impact of strategies designed to improve individuals’ sense of life purpose.”

The research was presented at the American Heart Association’s EPI/Lifestyle 2015 Scientific Sessions in Baltimore.

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Ten Essential Psych Studies of 2014: Making Narcissists Empathise, Memory Boosting Spice And More…

In 2014 we learned which habits make you feel happy, the emotion which lasts the longest and much more…

In 2014 we learned which habits make you feel happy, the emotion which lasts the longest and much more…

1. How to get a narcissist to feel empathy

Narcissists usually aren’t much interested in other people’s suffering or, for that matter, any of other people’s feelings.

But a study published this year found that narcissists can be made to feel empathy, if given a nudge in the right direction (note: throughout this article, follow the links for more info).

Erica Hepper, the study’s author, explained:

“If we encourage narcissists to consider the situation from their teammate or friend’s point of view, they are likely to respond in a much more considerate or sympathetic way.”

It’s not that narcissists can’t feel for others it’s that they need reminding, Hepper said:

“…narcissists’ low empathy is automatic (instead of consciously suppressed or under-reported), and also that perspective-taking induces genuine change in the way that narcissists process a distressed person’s experience.”

Continue reading “Ten Essential Psych Studies of 2014: Making Narcissists Empathise, Memory Boosting Spice And More…”

8 Weight-Loss Tips That Might Surprise You

Some of these tips on weight loss and comfort food, exercise, the emotions and more might surprise you.

Some of these tips on weight loss and comfort food, exercise, the emotions and more might surprise you.

1. Look at loads of pictures of food

It’s the most unlikely weight-loss trick ever: looking at endless pictures of foods can make them less enjoyable to eat, a recent study has found.

While a few photos might enhance the appetite, contrary to what you’d expect, people are actually put off the taste by looking at loads of pictures of food.

Professor Ryan Elder, who led the study, which is published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology, said:

“In a way, you’re becoming tired of that taste without even eating the food.

It’s sensory boredom — you’ve kind of moved on. You don’t want that taste experience any more.”

2. Play Tetris (or similar)

Just three minutes of playing Tetris can reduce cravings for food, cigarettes and alcohol, according to a new study published in the journal Appetite.

The psychologists conclude that Tetris, a retro tile-matching puzzle game, may provide a visual distraction which helps people control their cravings.

One of the study’s authors, Professors Jackie Andrade, explained:

“Episodes of craving normally only last a few minutes, during which time an individual is visualising what they want and the reward it will bring.

Often those feelings result in the person giving in and consuming the very thing they are trying to resist.

But by playing Tetris, just in short bursts, you are preventing your brain creating those enticing images and without them the craving fades.”

Candy Crush will probably do the same job.

3. Stop ‘exercising’, start having fun!

A strange thing happens when people start exercising to lose weight.

Despite burning more calories, they frequently fail to shed the pounds.

One reason people give is that they start eating more.

But, a new study finds, when exercising just for fun, people don’t eat so much afterwards.

The reason for this difference seems to be in how framing exercise affects people’s search for rewards:

“Engaging in a physical activity seems to trigger the search for reward when individuals perceive it as exercise but not when they perceive it as fun.”.

So the best advice is: stop ‘exercising’ and go out and have fun.

4. Comfort food doesn’t comfort you

Contrary to what most people believe, comfort food does not improve a low mood, a new study has found.

The research, published in the journal Health Psychology, found that people who ate nothing recovered from a bad mood just as quickly as those who ate their preferred comfort food.

The researchers concluded:

“We found no justification for people to choose comfort foods when they are distressed.

Removing an excuse for eating a high-calorie or high-fat food may help people develop and maintain healthier eating habits, and may lead them to focus on other, food-free methods of improving their mood.

You don’t need comfort food to feel better; the mind will do the trick all on its own if you give it time.”

5. A protein-rich breakfast reduces food cravings

New research shows that eating a good breakfast — particularly one rich in protein — boosts a critical neurotransmitter, which may lower food cravings later in the day.

Dr. Heather Leidy, an assistant professor of nutrition and exercise physiology who led the study, said:

“Our research showed that people experience a dramatic decline in cravings for sweet foods when they eat breakfast.

However, breakfasts that are high in protein also reduced cravings for savory — or high-fat — foods.

On the other hand, if breakfast is skipped, these cravings continue to rise throughout the day.”

6. Why sleep deprivation leads to junk food craving

Recent research from UC Berkeley scanned the brains of 24 participants after both a good, and a bad night’s sleep.

After disturbed sleep, there was increased activity in the depths of the brain, which is generally associated with rewards and automatic behaviour.

The frontal lobes, just behind and above the eyes, which help provide self-control, were less active.

The finding may help explain why the sleep-deprived are more likely to give in to calorific temptations.

One of the study’s authors, Matthew Walker, explained:

“”What we have discovered is that high-level brain regions required for complex judgments and decisions become blunted by a lack of sleep, while more primal brain structures that control motivation and desire are amplified.”

7. Diets make you less happy overall

A new study of almost 2,000 overweight and obese adults in the UK has found that those who lost weight were unhappier than those who remained within 5% of their original weight.

Although they were physically healthier four years later — with lower blood pressure and reduced risk of heart disease — those who lost weight were likely to be less happy.

Dr. Sarah Jackson, the study’s lead author, pointed out that the reason may be that diets tend to make you miserable:

“Resisting the ever-present temptations of unhealthy food in modern society takes a mental toll, as it requires considerable willpower and may involve missing out on some enjoyable activities.

Anyone who has ever been on a diet would understand how this could affect well-being.”

8. Pay attention to your emotions

Learning to pay attention to your emotions is a more powerful weight-loss strategy than greater nutritional knowledge, a new study finds.

A group of people were given a nutritional knowledge course and they were taught to recognise basic emotions in both themselves and other people.

At the end of the training session participants were asked to choose a snack.

Those who had had the emotion training were more likely to choose the healthier option.

The study’s authors concluded:

“With a better understanding of how they feel and how to use emotions to make better decisions, people will not only eat better, they will also likely be happier and healthier because they relate better to others and are more concerned with their overall well-being.”

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5 Easy Activities Proven To Enhance Life (Perfect for Thanksgiving)

Five prosocial activities proven to be perfect for boosting happiness and well-being.

Five prosocial activities proven to be perfect for boosting happiness and well-being.

There’s one key thread that links these five simple ways of feeling happier and enhancing life.

It’s unselfish behaviour that is not only good for us but also for the people around us.

They’re great reminders for this time of year…

1. Sleep to feel grateful

People who feel more grateful are happier with their lives, have more hope and more positive attitudes.

But how can you feel more gratitude?

One option is to get a little more sleep because sleep makes people feel more grateful, according to a University of California study.

Dr. Amie Gordon, who led the study said:

“…our research […] is the first to show that everyday experiences of poor sleep are negatively associated with gratitude toward others — an important emotion that helps form and maintain close social bonds.”

The knock-on effects of getting more sleep are felt by all the family, Dr. Gordon explained:

“…people reported feeling less appreciated by their partners if they or their partner tends to sleep poorly, suggesting that the lack of gratitude is transmitted to the partner.”

2. Notice a kind gesture

It’s easy to take other people for granted.

But, being grateful to others partner for any little kindnesses they do can make all the difference to a relationship.

Research by Dr. Sara Algoe and colleagues, found that gratitude helps to maintain intimate relationships.

Algoe said:

“Feelings of gratitude and generosity are helpful in solidifying our relationships with people we care about, and benefit to the one giving as well as the one on the receiving end.

Gratitude triggers a cascade of responses within the person who feels it in that very moment, changing the way the person views the generous benefactor, as well as motivations toward the benefactor.

This is especially true when a person shows that they care about the partner’s needs and preferences.”

So, say thank you to those around you.

3. Give away time to feel time-rich

It may sound counter-intuitive, but psychological research shows that when people give away their time, they actually feel they have more time themselves.

Not only that, explain the study’s authors Michael Norton and Elizabeth Dunn:

“In fact, giving time away alleviates people’s sense of time famine even more than receiving unexpected windfalls of free time.”

And that is apart from the good feelings you engender in other people.

4. Give away money to feel wealthy

It’s not just giving away time that makes you feel good.

Studies from all around the world, in India, Canada, South Africa and the US, consistently tell us that, paradoxically, giving away money makes people feel more wealthy.

Again, that’s apart from the gratitude that people feel towards you.

5. Buy experiences to be happy

At a time of year when many people are buying goods, according to the psychological research it might be better to spend on experiences.

Clothing, jewellery and electronic gadgets are all very well, but it’s often a concert, vacation, or meal out that lives long in the mind.

Experiences are also easier to talk about with others, which is another way they continue to give us pleasure long after they are over.

• Want more suggestions? Read on: 10 Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life & 4 Step Gratitude Plan and 10 Easy Activities Science Has Proven Will Make You Happier Today.

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